Should I Contact My Ex After a Love Ritual?

“Nahabu, the ritual is done. Should I contact my ex now, or wait?” This is one of the most important questions a client can ask, because what you do in the days after a love ritual can help the work — or push it back. My general advice is simple: let the spiritual work move first, wait for the signs, and then respond. But every case is different, so I always read through your situation and give you clear spiritual advice for your own case.

Why waiting helps the work

When I do a love ritual, I work on the spiritual bond between you and your ex: clearing what blocks it and awakening the feelings you shared. That work needs a calm space to move. If you message again and again, beg, argue or ask “why are you not answering?”, your ex feels pressure instead of longing. Pressure makes people pull away. Silence, on the other hand, lets them feel your absence — and that is often when the thread pulls their heart back towards you.

“Let the spirits knock on their heart. Do not stand at the door shouting.”— Psychic Nahabu

What not to do after the ritual

do not send long emotional messages or many messages in a row;
do not beg, threaten or bring up old fights;
do not ask their friends or family to pressure them;
do not post sad or angry messages about them online;
do not tell anyone about the spiritual work — keep it private.

The signs to wait for

Most clients notice signs within 3 days to 2 weeks (read how long does spiritual work take). Watch for:

your ex messages, calls or reacts to your posts after silence;
they appear in your dreams, or mention dreaming of you;
mutual friends say they asked about you;
their tone becomes softer when you meet by chance.

Tell me about every sign. I guide you on what it means and what to do next. See also the signs your ex still loves you.

When your ex reaches out

When the first message comes, reply — but keep it warm, short and calm. Do not pour out every feeling at once, and do not ask them to explain everything immediately. Let the conversation grow naturally. Send me a screenshot if you are unsure how to answer; many clients do this, and it helps me guide them.

When you cannot avoid contact

Some clients share children, a home, work or a business with their ex. In these cases, keep contact polite and only about practical matters. Be kind, calm and steady. This peaceful energy actually supports the work. If you have to make an important decision together, message me first and I will read the situation.

My honest word

Should I contact my ex after a love ritual? In most cases, wait for the signs and let your ex come towards you; then respond with calm warmth. I am a healer, not the Almighty, so I never promise 100% results, but I will guide you at every step. If you have not started yet, read how a love reading works on WhatsApp, get your ex back and does spiritual work really work. If you are not sure whether your ex is thinking of you, read how to know if someone is thinking of you.

Questions about contacting your ex

Can I text my ex just once after the ritual?

Ask me first. In some cases one calm message is fine; in others it is better to wait for them. I read your situation and tell you which.

What if my ex blocked me?

Do not try to get around the block. Let the work move. Read why did my ex block me.

Should I reply straight away when my ex messages?

Reply warmly and calmly, but do not overwhelm them. Short and kind is best at the start.

Honest note: I am a traditional healer, not the Almighty, so I never guarantee results. My work is spiritual work for adults (18+) and does not replace a doctor, lawyer or other professional. Please read the disclaimer.

Psychic Nahabu

Traditional healer with psychic abilities, originally from Uganda. Main office in Bryanston, Johannesburg, with an office in Kampala. I offer private love and relationship consultations to clients in Louisiana and across the USA, Australia, France and Singapore. More about me.